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The “I love you” I Didn’t Hear

Sometimes I get lazy, and I don’t want to put my hearing aids in. If you are on my left side, I can hear you pretty well. If you are on my right side, you can forget it. So, when I walk with someone, or sit at dinner, I try to be either to the right of the person, or right across from them. It is really exhausting and would be much easier just to wear my aids. But I don’t.

I was sitting at dinner with a group of friends, and I added one of those conversational one liner jokes to the conversation and it got a great laugh. I started looking a faces around the table to see if the laugh matched the response, because when you can’t hear you have to do that. Everyone’s face matched until I got to the person directly to the right of me. Her facial features were hurt, kind of sad, and those sad eyes were looking directly at me. I was confused at the response so I didn’t ask her anything right away. Was I offensive? Was it a bad joke? Was it a dad joke? She spoke first.

“Really? No response for me?”

She pushed her chair out, picked up her purse, and quietly left. The table got quiet. I looked around at the faces and they had all gone from laughter to awkward. “What is happening?” I asked. One of my friends sitting straight across from me, and has no problem telling me the truth, let me know what was happening.

“You inserted your joke and it was a good joke. She told you that you are so funny and that she just loved you. You didn’t respond at all and just looked at her.”

“I didn’t hear her,” I said defensively.

“You don’t have your hearing aids in do you?”

I left the table right away and went after her. Luckily she was still in the parking lot sitting in her car just staring forward. I knocked on her window and she looked at me. Now she was mad. She rolled down the window and looked straight ahead again. “Hi,” I said. “What’s going on and will you please come back in?”

“That’s ok, I’m fine.”

“Listen, I’m sorry. I didn’t have my hearing aids in and I didn’t know that you said something to me.”

“Why?”

“I don’t understand the question?”

“Yes, why don’t have your hearing aids in?”

I didn’t have an answer. “I get self conscious.”

“Well you shouldn’t! We are your friends.”

“I agree and I’m sorry. Please come back in and I will put my hearing aids in and apologize to the whole table for not wearing them. I will admit that words matter, and hearing those words matters even more. I will say I am sorry for the words I missed, and most of all that I am sorry for the I-love-you(s) that I didn’t hear. Why? Because I love you all too.”

“You have them with you?”

“I do.”

“Idiot,” she smiled.

She walked back in with me, she slammed the door a little bit, but she walked back in with me. I made that apology to the whole table, and we had a great time for the rest of the night. There were a few great digs, and they jokingly repeated themselves louder to make sure I could hear them.

“I LOVE YOU MAN1”

I-love-you(s) come in many different forms. I want to make sure don’t miss any of them. I don’t want to ever miss another “I love you” again.

Written by:
Dale Hansen
Published on:
March 31, 2022
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6 Comments

Categories: Community Outreach, Educational, Hearing, Hearing Aids, Miscellaneous, Patient care, TestimonialsTags: Audiologist, audiology, Dr. Richard S. Reikowski, ear doctor, family hearing and balance center.cardinal hearing centers, Hearing Aids, hearing doctor, hearing loss, Hearing Testing

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  1. Elizabeth

    March 31, 2022 at 8:30 am

    What a great story! Hearing loss not only affects the individual, but everyone in their lives too.

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    • Rich

      April 4, 2022 at 8:10 am

      How true!

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  2. Kara Merchant

    March 31, 2022 at 9:18 am

    What a beautiful story and you’re right Elizabeth is really does affect everyone!

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    • Rich

      April 4, 2022 at 8:11 am

      I agree with you and Elizabeth, Kara.

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  3. Rich

    March 31, 2022 at 9:36 am

    Nice share Dale!

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  4. Gail Reagan

    April 4, 2022 at 9:24 am

    That’s a wonderful story! Thank you for sharing Dale!

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